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- Lost Love
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- QUESTION: After giving my boyfriend all there was of me and my love, he left
- without an explanation or even a good-bye. I am left feeling empty and
- worthless. I know I can get lots of advice from other columnists, but they
- are just words. Surely a doctor must have some medicine, some pill to help me
- through this terrible time? Won't you please help me?
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- ANSWER: If I tell you that you are not alone, it is not because I am hoping
- that misery likes company, but to make you realize that everyone reading this
- column and your letter can remember a similar experience in their lives. We
- have all suffered the almost unbearable pain of losing the affections of a
- loved one in the manner you describe; yet look around, we are all still here,
- and the wounds have healed and become less painful, more bearable. You seek
- medication from me as if it could be a magic cure, and that is just not
- possible. I dread when my patients become dependent upon chemicals to blunt
- the normal emotions and feelings that are a part of daily living. It seems so
- easy to "pop a pill" and feel better, but the trap is there; and soon we use
- the same way out when an expected job promotion does not materialize, or when
- the term paper we labored so long on comes back with a "C" instead of the "A"
- we felt we deserved. Living these days takes just a bit of courage, and the
- firm belief that things do change and we can make them better if we work at
- it. I don't know how Ann Landers might handle your question, but I suspect
- she may share my feelings. You are far from worthless, and if you were here
- I'd give you a big hug, hoping that might rekindle your own self esteem, but
- the only medication I have to prescribe in your case is "Time". It has cured
- more cases like yours than all the pills on the Pharmacy shelf.
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- The material contained here is "FOR INFORMATION ONLY" and should not replace
- the counsel and advice of your personal physician. Promptly consulting your
- doctor is the best path to a quick and successful resolution of any medical
- problem.
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